Being invisible in a world of visible.

A few years ago a friend of mine was wailing about becoming invisible.  I didn’t understand what she meant.  She was around 50.  As I approached a similar (;-) age, I started to get what she meant.  In the past you’d walk along the street and know you were noticed. You would arrive at work and comments would be made on what you were wearing. You’d have group photos taken and you were there in the middle or reasonably near.  Then one day, you arrive at work with all your hair cut off, or a completely different colour and it takes a few days for anyone to comment. You stand in queues, and realise people behind you are getting served while you start questioning whether you have turned into chopped liver.

You suddenly notice that the younger managers are talking to you like you are an idiot, a geriatric fool who has no clue about technology, even though you have been working with it since before they were born. You may not be a digital native, but you have learned to speak the language pretty bloody fluently.  You make a suggestion and realise no one has heard your suggestion, then some other (generally much younger) wannabe suggests something very similar and everyone listens, even though they don’t actually know what they are talking about and don’t have the answers.  They will make a suggestion when they have only been in the job 5 minutes and you know they don’t have the back up knowledge to deliver (and you secretly wait for their idea to fail – or is that just me lol).

So, why does this happen? I have no idea, I just know (now) that it does. I also know I am not the only one who feels it, and I’m sure it isn’t a new thing either.  I want to know how others counteract it, because I have to say it is pissing the hell out of me.